Many people simply enjoy a healthy sex life because sex is pleasurable. Now there's another reason to stay under the sheets; there are substantial health benefits of sex. Enjoying a rigorous romp can do wonders for everyone both physically and psychologically. Now, men everywhere can tell their ladies that sex is not only for fun, but, since there are health benefits of sex, their lives may depend on it.
The following are six different reasons why sex and sexual activity may help you live a longer, happier life due to the health benefits of sex:
Sex can cure headaches
All those times that you were told, "Not tonight honey, I have a headache," all you had to do was inform your woman that one of the health benefits of sex is its ability to act as a pain reliever. The hormone oxytocin (a nine amino acid peptide that is synthesized in hypothalamic neurons and transported down axons of the posterior pituitary for secretion into blood) secretes within your body whenever you engage in sexual activity.
Because of this secretion, endorphins (hormone-like chemicals that bear a close functional resemblance to morphine) are released. When a person is aroused or excited, oxytocin levels not only begin to increase, they are the reason that orgasms come about. Studies have shown that a rise in oxytocin levels can relieve pain; everything from headaches, cramps and overall body aches can be diminished with a simple roll in the hay.
Reduce stress, sleep well
A recent survey revealed that people who have more sex reported that they felt more at ease, happier and learned how to handle stress better. So perhaps the term "sexual frustration" is not too far from the truth.
After an orgasm, an intense wave of calm and relaxation overcomes humans (that's why men usually fall asleep) and it's a time when people can truly liberate themselves and let go. Plenty of people who enjoy a regular dose of sex convey that they sleep much better during the night and feel alive and refreshed throughout the day. So, one of the health benefits of sex is a better nights sleep, which allows you to handle day-to-day stress much more efficiently.
Increase blood flow
It goes without saying that when we get aroused our blood starts to pump at a quicker rate and, thus, blood flow to our brain increases. Both an increased heart rate and more blood pumping through the brain result in better performance (in and out of the bedroom).
What this ultimately means is that the fresh supply of blood pumping through your body provides the organs with a healthy dose of oxygen and rids the body of old and wasteful products. So, another health benefit of sex is a cleansed system. Treat your temple right with the help of a little excitement
Body maintenance
One of the health benefits of sex is that it helps to keep you fit and it can keep you in constant awareness of your body image. Everyone likes to know that they have a nice physique and continually being naked in front of another person can be somewhat of a good incentive to stay in shape.
Believe it or not, sexual intercourse burns off 150 calories every half hour. Although the average couple engages in sex for approximately 25 minutes a session only three times a week, it still accounts for 450 calories that are better taken off than put on.
If you're more active than average, then that will only make things more beneficial for you and that lucky gal. A health benefit of sex, particularly a rigorous hour of sex, is that it may burn even more than 300 calories depending on how rigorous you get.
Fountain of youth
Although the orgasm is sometimes referred to as the "little death," having at least two orgasms a week can increase your life span. Every time you reach orgasm, the hormone DHEA (Dehydroepiandrosterone) increases in response to sexual excitement and ejaculation.
DHEA can boost your immune system, repair tissue, improve cognition, keep skin healthy, and even work as an antidepressant. Therefore, a health benefit of sex if you keep the orgasms coming, is potentially a longer life.
More hormones are good
Both testosterone and estrogen levels experience a boost through regular sexual activity. Testosterone does more than just boost your sex drive, it helps fortify bones and muscles, and it keeps your heart in good working condition as well.
In women, sex increases the levels of estrogen, which protects against heart disease. Ever wonder why women love the touchy, feely stuff so much? It's because of their rise in estrogen levels. This hormone also plays a huge role in a woman's body scent. While estrogen makes women sentimental, a rise in their testosterone levels is what makes them desire penetration.
Men also produce estrogen and as they age, their estrogen levels increase while their testosterone levels drop. This reversal often results in men becoming somewhat calmer as they get on in years.
Health benefits of sex galore
It's quite evident that there are many health benefits of sex. It increases brain power, heart rate, it can help fend off diseases and ailments, and it makes individuals feel good about themselves. In today's stressful society, it has become a little more difficult to engage in intimate sexuality as often, but as long as you incessantly make the effort, you'll realize that it's always worth it.
The health benefits of sex will make you feel wonderful within and without and you will gradually notice that the more sex you have, the more bounce you will have in each step. Happiness isn't sex itself, but sex does ultimately play a role in human happiness.
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Monday, April 23, 2007
Thursday, April 5, 2007
Think you know how to give oral sex? Try this
Whether you've performed oral sex on him once or dozens of times, you've never done it like this! After graduating from Oral Sex 101, it's time to amp up your original moves by trying any (or all) of the following twists.
Get Lewd with Food
Watching a woman lick his penis is just about every guy's idea of heaven. Watching a woman lick cream/honey/yogurt off his penis sends him to sexual nirvana. Smear it, drip it on and lick it off ‑- food is such a versatile sex toy that the possibilities are endless. Whipped cream? Been there. Go all out with raspberry syrup, mangoes, berries and chocolate sauce ‑- all at once if you fancy it! Most foods (with the exception of spicy ones) are safe to smear on the outside of the genitals, but be a little careful with oily foods if you're using condoms, since oil breaks down latex.
Do It Somewhere Daring
Getting oral sex while driving fast along a highway in a convertible (car: red, girl: blonde) is a typical teenage boy's fantasy. But when you're younger, you tend not to think things like "If he's having an orgasm, he's not exactly paying attention to driving" or "This could be fun but could also kill us." Therefore, a lesser ‑- but no less appealing ‑- version of this is to casually reach across the car, unzip and expose him, then dispense a leisurely hand job that keeps him standing at attention but doesn't bring him to climax. Shift to using your mouth when you arrive at your destination. Other places to go down on him that are daring but a little less so: in the bathroom at a party, on a balcony with his top half in view but you hidden, and up against the front door inside your apartment when he was previously on his way out the door to work.
Lick It Like It's a Lollipop
This one is often used in porn films, because it allows him to see exactly what's going on. It's best done on your knees, and depending on your heights he might need to stand on something (you need direct access to his testicles). Start by lifting his penis to expose his testicles, then find the line that runs up between them (it's a tiny ridge that's often a darker color). Find where this starts on the underside of his testicles, and that's where the long lick starts ‑- continuing, very slowly, right to the tip of his penis. Repeat the full-length licks until you've done at least 10, then move into one of the other techniques.
Go All the Way
Begin the oral sex by covering your teeth with your lips and then taking as much of him in your mouth as you can ‑- in one wonderful movement. I'm not saying you have to "deep throat." Just let him see his penis disappear rapidly. Most women start by licking the head, then take him little by little inside. He won't be expecting a full-length shaft swallow right away ‑- which is why it works so well to impress him!
Fisting for Nice Girls
Use one hand to hold the base of the penis, and let saliva pool in your mouth (your tongue needs to keep him nice and slippery). Make a loose fist with your other hand and slide it up and down his penis, closing it when you reach the head. Get the hand motion right first, then add your mouth, letting your hand act as an extension of it. Create a snug vacuum (but don't suck), then slide up and down, your hand following your mouth. If you're not the most coordinated person, hold your hand still at the base of the penis and simply move your mouth up and down.
Add Oomph
Spice up any oral technique by adding the "twist and swirl." The combination of firm fingers and a soft tongue feels fantastic, and it's easy to master: As you're using your hand to masturbate him, twist it slightly once it reaches the head. At the same time, swirl the flat of your tongue around the rim of the head. It's a simple but oh-so-effective move! Also try frenulum flicks: Use a tensed tongue to flick it, or make like a butterfly and "flutter" your tongue on his frenulum.
Star in His Favorite Porn
Love it or hate it, one of the reasons why men are so fond of pornography is that it's so overexaggerated. Add erotic flair to your repertoire by kissing him while you're both standing up, then dropping to your knees rather dramatically. Use one hand to guide his penis into your mouth, then ‑- maintaining intense eye contact throughout ‑- reach up with both hands to tweak his nipples. The "Look, Mum, no hands!" pose looks far more accomplished than it is, but it will score you big oral sex brownie points. If you want to rate off the scale, follow it up with this next little number.
Back Him Up
As he's getting undressed, lie on the bed with your head where your feet usually go, rather than perched on the pillows. As he walks toward the bed, slide down so your head is hanging over the bed, grab his buttock cheeks and take his penis into your mouth. Your head should be off the bed as you give him oral sex upside down. He's ultimately in control of the thrusting, but you can use your hands as a guide to speed him up or slow him down. Not only does this look sexy, but it also opens your throat wide so you can take in more of him without gagging.
Ball Games
The greatest compliment you can give him is looking like you want to be down in that area. And one of the best ways to demonstrate this is to explore all of it. Take one or both testicles in your mouth, hum lightly, suck gently and swirl your tongue around them. (Note: If you don't want to swallow when he ejaculates, switching to testicle stimulation while continuing to stimulate him with your hand is a good alternative.) Also, lick his perineum (between his testicles and anus), and while you're down there...
Give Him "Analingus"
Oral anal stimulation that involves licking, flicking or inserting a stiff tongue into the anal passage and thrusting feels great (for both sexes, actually), because the area is highly sensitive and loaded with nerve endings. If you're worried about germs or STDs, or if you're generally squeamish, put a barrier between the area and you, such as a piece of plastic wrap or a cut-open condom. Lots of guys love this, but many are too shy to tell you. So pretending it's your favorite thing to do (even if it isn't) takes care of that without awkwardness: If you like doing it, well, he has to indulge you, doesn't he?
Get Lewd with Food
Watching a woman lick his penis is just about every guy's idea of heaven. Watching a woman lick cream/honey/yogurt off his penis sends him to sexual nirvana. Smear it, drip it on and lick it off ‑- food is such a versatile sex toy that the possibilities are endless. Whipped cream? Been there. Go all out with raspberry syrup, mangoes, berries and chocolate sauce ‑- all at once if you fancy it! Most foods (with the exception of spicy ones) are safe to smear on the outside of the genitals, but be a little careful with oily foods if you're using condoms, since oil breaks down latex.
Do It Somewhere Daring
Getting oral sex while driving fast along a highway in a convertible (car: red, girl: blonde) is a typical teenage boy's fantasy. But when you're younger, you tend not to think things like "If he's having an orgasm, he's not exactly paying attention to driving" or "This could be fun but could also kill us." Therefore, a lesser ‑- but no less appealing ‑- version of this is to casually reach across the car, unzip and expose him, then dispense a leisurely hand job that keeps him standing at attention but doesn't bring him to climax. Shift to using your mouth when you arrive at your destination. Other places to go down on him that are daring but a little less so: in the bathroom at a party, on a balcony with his top half in view but you hidden, and up against the front door inside your apartment when he was previously on his way out the door to work.
Lick It Like It's a Lollipop
This one is often used in porn films, because it allows him to see exactly what's going on. It's best done on your knees, and depending on your heights he might need to stand on something (you need direct access to his testicles). Start by lifting his penis to expose his testicles, then find the line that runs up between them (it's a tiny ridge that's often a darker color). Find where this starts on the underside of his testicles, and that's where the long lick starts ‑- continuing, very slowly, right to the tip of his penis. Repeat the full-length licks until you've done at least 10, then move into one of the other techniques.
Go All the Way
Begin the oral sex by covering your teeth with your lips and then taking as much of him in your mouth as you can ‑- in one wonderful movement. I'm not saying you have to "deep throat." Just let him see his penis disappear rapidly. Most women start by licking the head, then take him little by little inside. He won't be expecting a full-length shaft swallow right away ‑- which is why it works so well to impress him!
Fisting for Nice Girls
Use one hand to hold the base of the penis, and let saliva pool in your mouth (your tongue needs to keep him nice and slippery). Make a loose fist with your other hand and slide it up and down his penis, closing it when you reach the head. Get the hand motion right first, then add your mouth, letting your hand act as an extension of it. Create a snug vacuum (but don't suck), then slide up and down, your hand following your mouth. If you're not the most coordinated person, hold your hand still at the base of the penis and simply move your mouth up and down.
Add Oomph
Spice up any oral technique by adding the "twist and swirl." The combination of firm fingers and a soft tongue feels fantastic, and it's easy to master: As you're using your hand to masturbate him, twist it slightly once it reaches the head. At the same time, swirl the flat of your tongue around the rim of the head. It's a simple but oh-so-effective move! Also try frenulum flicks: Use a tensed tongue to flick it, or make like a butterfly and "flutter" your tongue on his frenulum.
Star in His Favorite Porn
Love it or hate it, one of the reasons why men are so fond of pornography is that it's so overexaggerated. Add erotic flair to your repertoire by kissing him while you're both standing up, then dropping to your knees rather dramatically. Use one hand to guide his penis into your mouth, then ‑- maintaining intense eye contact throughout ‑- reach up with both hands to tweak his nipples. The "Look, Mum, no hands!" pose looks far more accomplished than it is, but it will score you big oral sex brownie points. If you want to rate off the scale, follow it up with this next little number.
Back Him Up
As he's getting undressed, lie on the bed with your head where your feet usually go, rather than perched on the pillows. As he walks toward the bed, slide down so your head is hanging over the bed, grab his buttock cheeks and take his penis into your mouth. Your head should be off the bed as you give him oral sex upside down. He's ultimately in control of the thrusting, but you can use your hands as a guide to speed him up or slow him down. Not only does this look sexy, but it also opens your throat wide so you can take in more of him without gagging.
Ball Games
The greatest compliment you can give him is looking like you want to be down in that area. And one of the best ways to demonstrate this is to explore all of it. Take one or both testicles in your mouth, hum lightly, suck gently and swirl your tongue around them. (Note: If you don't want to swallow when he ejaculates, switching to testicle stimulation while continuing to stimulate him with your hand is a good alternative.) Also, lick his perineum (between his testicles and anus), and while you're down there...
Give Him "Analingus"
Oral anal stimulation that involves licking, flicking or inserting a stiff tongue into the anal passage and thrusting feels great (for both sexes, actually), because the area is highly sensitive and loaded with nerve endings. If you're worried about germs or STDs, or if you're generally squeamish, put a barrier between the area and you, such as a piece of plastic wrap or a cut-open condom. Lots of guys love this, but many are too shy to tell you. So pretending it's your favorite thing to do (even if it isn't) takes care of that without awkwardness: If you like doing it, well, he has to indulge you, doesn't he?
Friday, March 23, 2007
Inside the men's locker room
Six Positions men confessed to love
Chances are, if you've been having sex for a while now, you feel like you've tried every sex position known to man, but you know what? You probably haven't. That said, why not turn these everyday positions into something crazy by adding some little twists. Your girl will keel over with pleasure.
Doggy leg lift
The next time your girl assumes the doggy position, simply lift her leg and either keep it against your hip or hold it up by the thigh. This way, you can penetrate her even deeper and your testicles will gently tap against her clitoris more prominently. Or you can even use your free hand to massage her clitoris and drive her mad.
Missionary with pillows
Have your girl lie down on the bed, knees bent, feet planted on the bed. Place a couple of pillows under her bottom. This not only allows you to penetrate her more deeply, it provides crazy clitoral stimulation and may well have you both reaching orgasm at the same time.
Spoon split
The awesome thing about spooning is that women feel like you're being incredibly affectionate. You also have better access to her body, and can maneuver her around more easily. Next time you decide to spoon, have her twist her body a little so you have access to her breasts. Then, lift one of her legs and either hold it up or try placing it behind you.
Reverse cowgirl squat
Instead of her riding you the typical way, kneel down and rest your butt on your heels. Now with her back to you, get her to squat up and down on your penis. If her legs aren't strong enough, she may have to lean on her hands, which is great considering you'll get an optimal view.
Standing rhythm
The next time you and your woman decide to stand in front of a mirror and watch yourselves have sex, add a little rhythm to your routine. Have her bend down so that her body is at a 90-degree angle, legs as straight as possible. Now, as you stand behind her giving her a dose of your mad moves, rotate your hips while you go in and out, slowly. And above all else, look at her body, make turned-on sounds, and then look into her eyes. Finally, give that sweet ass a smack and rub it better.
69 + 1
Now, when you think of the 69 position, you imagine oral sex, of course. But rather than alter the actual position, alter the technique instead. To begin, rather than have one of you on top of the other, lie side by side, as this gives both of you the freedom to maneuver. Now, use your fingers to enhance your oral expertise. Rub her clitoris, penetrate her, do whatever it takes to make her lose control, but not so much that she stops sucking.
Drive her mad
Sex can always stand to undergo some changes, especially if they add more pleasure to the experience. So the next time you're about to get nasty with your girl, try out some of these maneuvers. You can thank me later. Until next time, assume the position.
Chances are, if you've been having sex for a while now, you feel like you've tried every sex position known to man, but you know what? You probably haven't. That said, why not turn these everyday positions into something crazy by adding some little twists. Your girl will keel over with pleasure.
Doggy leg lift
The next time your girl assumes the doggy position, simply lift her leg and either keep it against your hip or hold it up by the thigh. This way, you can penetrate her even deeper and your testicles will gently tap against her clitoris more prominently. Or you can even use your free hand to massage her clitoris and drive her mad.
Missionary with pillows
Have your girl lie down on the bed, knees bent, feet planted on the bed. Place a couple of pillows under her bottom. This not only allows you to penetrate her more deeply, it provides crazy clitoral stimulation and may well have you both reaching orgasm at the same time.
Spoon split
The awesome thing about spooning is that women feel like you're being incredibly affectionate. You also have better access to her body, and can maneuver her around more easily. Next time you decide to spoon, have her twist her body a little so you have access to her breasts. Then, lift one of her legs and either hold it up or try placing it behind you.
Reverse cowgirl squat
Instead of her riding you the typical way, kneel down and rest your butt on your heels. Now with her back to you, get her to squat up and down on your penis. If her legs aren't strong enough, she may have to lean on her hands, which is great considering you'll get an optimal view.
Standing rhythm
The next time you and your woman decide to stand in front of a mirror and watch yourselves have sex, add a little rhythm to your routine. Have her bend down so that her body is at a 90-degree angle, legs as straight as possible. Now, as you stand behind her giving her a dose of your mad moves, rotate your hips while you go in and out, slowly. And above all else, look at her body, make turned-on sounds, and then look into her eyes. Finally, give that sweet ass a smack and rub it better.
69 + 1
Now, when you think of the 69 position, you imagine oral sex, of course. But rather than alter the actual position, alter the technique instead. To begin, rather than have one of you on top of the other, lie side by side, as this gives both of you the freedom to maneuver. Now, use your fingers to enhance your oral expertise. Rub her clitoris, penetrate her, do whatever it takes to make her lose control, but not so much that she stops sucking.
Drive her mad
Sex can always stand to undergo some changes, especially if they add more pleasure to the experience. So the next time you're about to get nasty with your girl, try out some of these maneuvers. You can thank me later. Until next time, assume the position.
How the 69er works
The 69er got its name because the numbers are head-to-toe — as you are when you're doing it! Put simply, it's a sexual position that allows each of you to give and receive oral sex simultaneously. The usual position is you on top of him, with your bottom pointed toward his face, genitals lowered so he can lick them. Meanwhile, your mouth is positioned above his penis.
Because you're giving and receiving pleasure at the same time, some claim a 69er is the ultimate erotic sensation. Others find them to be ultimately frustrating: It's all too easy to get lazy on your end! If your partner's working his magic and you're about to climax, it's common to forget about his pleasure and try to get away with a few lackluster licks. That's why many people try 69ers in their youth and then decide they're too much work. Big mistake, ladies: They're a great way to add naughtiness and variety to a stale sex life, and with a few simple adjustments, they're easy to master. Here, the ups and downs of head-to-toe sex — and how to make yours better!
The Ups
Sticking your genitals so blatantly in your partner's face is, well, quite rude, really... which is why it feels so liberating when we do it! Women are quite often bashful about showing their bits, so lowering yourself on top of him and realizing he's copping an eyeful can be a huge turn-on for both of you.
Because a 69er exposes the entire pelvic region, giving him access to the whole of the vulva, the perineum (the hairless bit between the anus and the vaginal opening) and your anus, he's able to stimulate much more than just your clitoris.
The Downs
How do I put this delicately? If ever there was a time you wished you hadn't rushed out the door without showering, this is it. It can be slightly alarming to remember this just as you're lowering yourself right next to his nose.
Some men consider a 69er so erotic, they ejaculate too quickly — a literal two licks in. This is why it's advisable for him to start working on you long before you start on him. Giving and receiving pleasure simultaneously is fabulous, but it has a massive downside: You need to pay attention — and that means you can't lose yourself in the moment. This, sadly for us, is more of a problem for women than for men. Orgasm for men is easy: Simply having a mouth hovering near his penis can sometimes be enough to send him over the edge. Women, complicated creatures that we are, usually require a specific, constant, don't-alter-anything-just-keep-doing-it-or-I'll-kill-you type of stimulation to climax. And if he's in the throes of orgasm or approaching it, he's unlikely to be paying careful attention to the critical timing you require. If he does manage to keep going and you're the one transported into orgasmic bliss, it's rather easy to get a little carried away and forget your mouth is wrapped around some very vulnerable flesh. Some women involuntarily clench their jaw during orgasm. (Never seen a grown man cry? Here's your chance.) If you assume the traditional position (meaning you're on top of him), you're actually the wrong way around for his tongue to work on the most sensitive part of the clitoral area. So, depending on how long, wide and dexterous his tongue is, this can mean his stimulation won't feel as good for you as regular oral sex.
Make It Work By:
Using your hands. It's too awkward and tiring to attempt to use only your mouth to stimulate him, so use your hands as well. And don't be scared to remove your mouth and work on him with your hands to give yourself a break. Ditto for him.
Take turns. One way to solve the problem of forgetting to work on your partner because you're enjoying yourself too much is to assume the position but lie back and relax while he gives you an orgasm, and then reciprocate when you're done. Putting a pillow under his head will keep him from getting a stiff neck from having to lift his head to make contact. Or try lying head-to-toe on your sides, each with the under thigh drawn up as a cushion for the partner's head. If you like being opened up wide, get him to slip his arm in the crook of your upper knee.
If it nearly always takes you longer to orgasm than it does him, get him to start working on you first while you lie back and relax. Start using your hands on him as you feel yourself becoming more aroused and only fellate him when you know you're approaching orgasm. Try the "cascade" position — a 69er standing up — which gives you the unique sensation of having an orgasm with your head downward. To get you there, he lays you face up across the bed, with your head over the edge, and then stands astride your face, bends over and picks you up, putting your legs around his neck.
Because you're giving and receiving pleasure at the same time, some claim a 69er is the ultimate erotic sensation. Others find them to be ultimately frustrating: It's all too easy to get lazy on your end! If your partner's working his magic and you're about to climax, it's common to forget about his pleasure and try to get away with a few lackluster licks. That's why many people try 69ers in their youth and then decide they're too much work. Big mistake, ladies: They're a great way to add naughtiness and variety to a stale sex life, and with a few simple adjustments, they're easy to master. Here, the ups and downs of head-to-toe sex — and how to make yours better!
The Ups
Sticking your genitals so blatantly in your partner's face is, well, quite rude, really... which is why it feels so liberating when we do it! Women are quite often bashful about showing their bits, so lowering yourself on top of him and realizing he's copping an eyeful can be a huge turn-on for both of you.
Because a 69er exposes the entire pelvic region, giving him access to the whole of the vulva, the perineum (the hairless bit between the anus and the vaginal opening) and your anus, he's able to stimulate much more than just your clitoris.
The Downs
How do I put this delicately? If ever there was a time you wished you hadn't rushed out the door without showering, this is it. It can be slightly alarming to remember this just as you're lowering yourself right next to his nose.
Some men consider a 69er so erotic, they ejaculate too quickly — a literal two licks in. This is why it's advisable for him to start working on you long before you start on him. Giving and receiving pleasure simultaneously is fabulous, but it has a massive downside: You need to pay attention — and that means you can't lose yourself in the moment. This, sadly for us, is more of a problem for women than for men. Orgasm for men is easy: Simply having a mouth hovering near his penis can sometimes be enough to send him over the edge. Women, complicated creatures that we are, usually require a specific, constant, don't-alter-anything-just-keep-doing-it-or-I'll-kill-you type of stimulation to climax. And if he's in the throes of orgasm or approaching it, he's unlikely to be paying careful attention to the critical timing you require. If he does manage to keep going and you're the one transported into orgasmic bliss, it's rather easy to get a little carried away and forget your mouth is wrapped around some very vulnerable flesh. Some women involuntarily clench their jaw during orgasm. (Never seen a grown man cry? Here's your chance.) If you assume the traditional position (meaning you're on top of him), you're actually the wrong way around for his tongue to work on the most sensitive part of the clitoral area. So, depending on how long, wide and dexterous his tongue is, this can mean his stimulation won't feel as good for you as regular oral sex.
Make It Work By:
Using your hands. It's too awkward and tiring to attempt to use only your mouth to stimulate him, so use your hands as well. And don't be scared to remove your mouth and work on him with your hands to give yourself a break. Ditto for him.
Take turns. One way to solve the problem of forgetting to work on your partner because you're enjoying yourself too much is to assume the position but lie back and relax while he gives you an orgasm, and then reciprocate when you're done. Putting a pillow under his head will keep him from getting a stiff neck from having to lift his head to make contact. Or try lying head-to-toe on your sides, each with the under thigh drawn up as a cushion for the partner's head. If you like being opened up wide, get him to slip his arm in the crook of your upper knee.
If it nearly always takes you longer to orgasm than it does him, get him to start working on you first while you lie back and relax. Start using your hands on him as you feel yourself becoming more aroused and only fellate him when you know you're approaching orgasm. Try the "cascade" position — a 69er standing up — which gives you the unique sensation of having an orgasm with your head downward. To get you there, he lays you face up across the bed, with your head over the edge, and then stands astride your face, bends over and picks you up, putting your legs around his neck.
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